How do two people stay close while they’re thousands of miles apart? With a few tips and tricks, long-distance loving won’t be something to fear.
Maybe it was a holiday fling that grew into something much more, or a childhood sweetheart flung halfway across the globe for university or work. Either way, everything’s perfect except for the distance. Do long-distance relationships even work, you may ask. Can you keep loving someone if you can’t even see or touch them? It’s hard enough to make a regular relationship work, without the difficulties of having oceans between you!
But long-distance relationships can and do succeed. It all comes down to how you both manage it. Try these 10 tips:
Communication is essential to any sort of relationship. Sharing your emotions is key, and so is making time to talk to each other daily.
In every relationship, near or far, it’ll falter if communication is taken for granted. Let each other know what you’ve been doing and thinking, and you’ll find yourselves feeling emotionally closer, even if not physically.
Make it a point to be in touch some way, every day, more than once if possible– whether it’s a quick Whatsapp message or a chat on the phone. Since you won’t be seeing each other at the end of the day, it’s important to maintain an emotional connection. While you may not always have long, in-depth conversations, think of it as time to share the little details of your day. Keeping your partner informed about your life, no matter how mundane it may seem to you, is important for maintaining a relationship.
Not everyone can avoid the temptation to be controlling, knowing their loved one is so far away. Without the reassurance of physical closeness, it can be easy to be swept away by irrational fears and insecurities. The fact is that people have free will, and you should never try to control another person. You have to trust each other completely for a long-distance relationship to work, or it may spell the end of your relationship.
With mutual trust, you never have to question each others’ motives and the relationship is solid. Learn to be true to the relationship and don’t give in to feelings of insecurity, suspicion, and impulses that can bring the relationship down. If the two of you know you’re true to each other for the long haul, then you’ll be alright. While this may be tougher to come by when you can’t see your partner, working on your communication can help build trust.
3. Be Creative
Rinna* says her boyfriend, a student in Glasgow at the time, mailed her scented clothes. And not just scented with perfume, mind! “He sent me his after-workout clothes that reeked of his sweat, mixed with his perfume, and I absolutely loved it! I survived on things like that till he got back a year later.”
Spontaneous ‘gifts’ can spice up a relationship, so try sending things like a creative countdown calendar, a drawing, or anything that reminds you of him.